By Smadar Efrat Yaish
Certified Breathwork Practitioner and Holistic Life Coach
Imagine yourself driving on an open road on a sunny day. There are no cars in front of you and not many behind you. How would you be driving? How would you feel? How would your body respond to this light traffic? How quickly would you arrive at your destination?
Now imagine yourself driving on the same road during a heavy traffic jam. How fast would you be driving? How would your body respond this scenario? What emotions, feelings and thoughts might arise?
Most of us would feel relaxed and might even enjoy the ride on an open road clear of traffic jams and interference.
Now imagine that the interferences are not cars or traffic lights but energies in your energetic field. These energetic blockages might not be as obvious as physical ones but they are no less powerful. The impact of energetic interferences and blockages may even be greater as they are subtle and unseen.
Keeping our bodies and energetic fields clear is important as it enables us to stay centered, focused and connected to our own energy, inner resources, power, inspiration and intuition. Clear bodies and energetic fields are like the open road to your destination.
Clearing your energetic field from unwanted energies and setting energetic boundaries to prevent unwanted energies from entering, requires attention and practice. This article provides you with eleven strategies for clearing your energetic field and setting psychic, energetic boundaries.
1. Stay grounded and present:
Learn to identify when, where and what gets you off balance and disconnected from your core energy. Being grounded and present enables you to notice imbalances and disturbances in your energetic field and therefore makes you more inclined to set boundaries.
In more extreme cases some people may have developed a habit of “leaving their bodies”. This is due mainly to prior traumatic experiences that have shattered their sense of safety and rootedness. Healing the trauma and learning to “live within one’s own body” plays a key role in learning to set boundaries in one’s daily life.
Meditate, walk bare foot in the park, practice Breathwork or do any other activity that helps you get grounded and connected to your personal energy.
2. Notice when your energetic field is being impacted by other people’s energies:
Observe changes in your energy. Pay attention to instances in which you sense unexplained agitation, fear, worry, etc. If there is no clear reason for this change in mood and energy, examine your recent interactions with others. At times, the source of the disturbance is caused by recent exposure to someone else’s energy. The exposure may occur through an in-person meeting, a phone conversation, or a psychic exchange. Notice the energy you took on and make a conscious decision to lovingly release this energy.
Amora Quan Yin in her book, The Pleiadian Workbook, recommends a few techniques to releasing other people energies, one of them is clearing with roses:
Imagine a blooming rose within your aura and watch this rose absorb the unwanted energy into it. Watch the rose closing while absorbing this energy. When the rose is filled with this energy, send the rose outside of your aura, your home and building. Imagine the rose dissolving and energy neutralizing. You could also send the rose into a violet flame that would neutralize this energy.
Always have an intention to have this energy turn into a higher frequency. Never send the energy directly back to its sender.
Check Amora’s book for an extensive description of various clearing techniques.
3. Notice the ways in which you create and maintain holes in your energetic field thus allowing other people’s energies into your field and contributing to the loss of your own energy and power
Judgments, complaining or gossiping are just a few of the ways that connect you to the energy fields of the very same people that you are judging and complaining about. When you judge, complain and gossip you are creating a negative energetic environment that weakens you and makes you a magnet for additional negative energies, including the energy of those individuals you have been judging or complaining about.
Suggestion: Avoid judging, complaining or gossiping for one week and notice what happens. It is very likely that your energetic field will soon have a new space/vacuum that can be used more effectively. I recommend that you start with a week-long commitment rather than just one day because in the first day or two you may find yourself struggling and therefore judging even more. Make an effort to play this game and notice the change in the quality of your own energy.
4. Notice old and even ancient energy cords that connect you to past relationships, situations and places
Energetic cords keep you connected with people and places long after you have been physically parted. These cords have the power to keep your energetic fields connected therefore making you vulnerable to energetic and unconscious communication. Clear your energetic field and deal with any lingering emotions related to that specific relationship, person or place.
Make a list of all the people you feel you are connected to energetically. Clear the cords connecting you to those individuals from whom you wish to disconnect yourself. Cutting these cords can be done through visualizing the cords being cut, having the cords absorbed into a rose, writing a letter that won’t be sent and noting your message. You might even choose to write this letter in the air (not on a piece a paper) with the intention that the message will reach its destination. Remember to thank these individuals for the contribution and lessons they provided for you. Then lovingly release them from any commitment to you, and yourself from any commitment to them.
5. Learn to recognize the energies that you are holding in your body/energy field that do not contribute to your growth such as shame, guilt, fear, doubt, etc.
These energies are likely to be impacting you and your ability to set boundaries.
Look at your relationship patterns and notice any common themes. Do you tend to feel guilty? Do you find yourself feeling abandoned or taken advantage of, for instance? Your emotional patterns and feelings will indicate to you what energies you are holding in your body and energetic field. Release these energies and come to terms with the original wound that caused these energies to invade your energetic field.
6. Learn to recognize the energies you pick up from significant others and your loved ones
Most of us have unconsciously taken on the energies of other people such as parents, past or present partners, children, etc…
Let’s take your interactions with your parents as an example. Do you find yourself experiencing strong, old emotions when in contact with them? Do you find yourself surprised by having a rather strong emotional reaction to something relatively minor they might do? Be aware that the immediate and direct contact usually activates the energies that already live within your energetic field and this is what triggers the strong reaction.
Once you clear these energies from your body and energetic field, your reactions will significantly subside. Be aware that nothing can enter your energetic field unless you have something in it that magnetizes it.
Take into consideration that clearing your energetic field is not a one-time event but rather something to incorporate into your regular practice. In addition to clearing your energetic field, make sure to set boundaries. Amora Quan Yin recommends visualizing placing roses outside of your aura. These roses will absorb unwanted energies. Place one rose in front of you, another to your right, another to your left and another above and behind. These roses can stay there until you choose to replace them.
When clearing other people’s energy, always set an intention that these energies be sent into the light and be transmuted into higher frequencies. Again, never send the energy you released directly back to its original owner.
7. Notice when and how you are losing your personal power and recognize the reason you are giving up your power
Having weak boundaries does not manifest only by taking on other people’s energy, but also by scattering your energy outside of your energetic field and, in doing so, losing your own power.
One of the ways in which you might scatter your energy is by leaving it in the past through dwelling on pain and sorrow or sending it to the future through worries and fears.
When you notice these feelings make a conscious decision to call your energy and power back to the present time and into your body. Imagine having a magnet in your heart. Take deep breaths in and out. When you breathe in, imagine that you are calling your energy and power from the past back to you. Then call your energy and power from the future back to this moment and your energetic field. Notice the change in your energy, vitality and emotions.
8. “Mind your own energetic field.” Be mindful of your co-dependence and let people take care their own issues and life lessons
Co-dependent individuals tend to give up their time, money, effort and energy for others. They also tend to easily pick up other people’s energies as a way to ease the other person’s pain and suffering. If you have such tendencies you are often most likely feeling tired and exhausted.
Notice your tendency to abandon your own agenda as well as your energetic field and jump into someone else’s energetic space for the sake of rescue. Remember that when you enter someone else’s territory you subject yourself to whatever might be there: fear, worry, panic, anger, etc.
Once you pick up their energy you will most likely be weakening yourself. The other person might temporarily feel better because you took their burden onto yourself.
Take care of your co-dependence issues and be mindful of where and how you make use of your power.
Take into consideration that holding on to other peoples’ energy within your body / energetic field is a form of control. Release this energy and grant yourself and the other person freedom.
9. Identify your unconscious contracts and agreements
Notice the life areas in which you feel stuck and look for possible unconscious contracts you may have made in the past that still bind you energetically. An example of an unconscious contract might be: “I will never hurt or leave you”. Such a contract might keep you connected to this person long after your relationship has ended. Another example might be: “I’ll never be happier than my mother as this is my way to be loyal to her”. This kind of “truth” might keep you stuck.
Once you notice an unconscious agreement, imagine writing the word “voided” on it and send it into a violet flame to be neutralized. You might choose to develop a new contract, this time with yourself. For example, creating a new contract in which you are loyal to your own happiness and well-being.
10. Balance your feminine and masculine energies
Every one of us is made of masculine as well as feminine energies regardless of gender. Masculine energy is characterized by focus, power to act, taking space and being an “I’ with clear boundaries. Feminine energy on the other hand is characterized by the desire to connect, to be receptive, and to transcend boundaries in order to connect to others. Having good a balance between feminine and masculine energies allows one to connect with others while keeping healthy boundaries and a good sense of self.
11. Practice Breathwork
Breathwork is one of the most effective ways to clear your energetic field of unwanted energies and set boundaries. The breath has the power to move old, stuck energies in the body. The release of such energies opens pathways for your spirit to enter. Connecting with your own spirit enables you to receive guidance and connection to your higher wisdom while giving you the ability to manifest tangible results with much greater ease.
© Smadar E. Yaish
Written by Smadar Efrat Yaish, Transition Holistic Life Coach, Certified Breathwork Practitioner and Licensed Clinical Social Worker.
You are welcome to e-mail this article to others as long as the author’s name is credited.
I’ll be happy to hear about your experiences with these techniques. Feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org